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Yesterday was the last full day I had with my family before I spend the next 4 weeks staying at mom's again. Dan took me out to a sushi lunch where we enjoyed each other's company, good sushi, beer and hot sake.  It was pretty awesome.  I'm glad we are spending some alone time together when we can cause the living situation sucks and we really dont know how long it will be this way. 

The last 2 weeks with the family were pretty awesome.  I enjoyed every minute of it...even when the kids were fighting.  I need to make an effort to make it home in time to pick up the kids with Dan since I won't be seeing much of them for the next 4 weeks. 

On our drive over to spend the night with mom, Hannah mentioned that she has few memories with her Lolo.  One that sticks out was hiding under his chair and tickling his feet with the back scratcher.    Hannah was born the same year my dad was diagnosed with terminal prostate cancer.  She was 5 when he passed away.  I'm just thankful that both Tyler and Hannah spent some time with my dad before he died.  I was always worried growing up that my kids would never be able to meet my parents because they had me so late in life.   

Here's to the 1st night of 28 at my mom's. This is the longest I'll be away from the family since I started staying here at the end of April. 

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This was my first week home every night after 4 weeks of staying at moms each night. One person was definitely happy about me being home....Sophie!  I've been with her every single day since we brought her home 8 years ago.  This is the first year that I haven't stayed home at night for mom than a few nights at a time.  She's been having a hard time with it too. Yet she still loves me the same and I couldn't be happier about it.  I have 1 more week left of being able to sleep at home each night before I'm gone for another 3 and a half weeks.  Im going to make the best of every day I have at home w my family. 

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Monday:  the start of the week and it's been a very rough last few days.  Mom was diagnosed with a UTI last week and was prescribed Macrobid.  She tolerated this drug in the past but this time is a completely different story. She gets dizzy spells soon after taking the medicine. Her appetite has practically gone away, her balance is awful, her demeanor is very negative and gets taxed for breath with low to mild exertion. I finally called in and was advised not to take the last dose today. They will try ceflex tomorrow to treat the UTI.  All was well before she started this antibiotic and now I feel we went back about 10 steps after making great progress since she was admitted back in April. 

The last few days have been extremely awful for me especially while she's been ill.  I miss my kids, my husband, my dog and my home.  5 hours home each day isn't enough and I really don't know how much more of this I can sustain. It's really taking a toll on my mental health.  It's taken a toll on my family. The sadness I see in my kid's eyes hurts deeply. I know they don't underhand why I'm doing what I'm doing.  Hell, sometimes I don't even know why I'm doing what I'm doing. I feel heavily burdened. It's disappointing to say that I've contemplated suicide so I can rest forever. I've even gone as far as rationalizing that my kids and husband won't miss me much because they hardly see me as it is. I can honestly say in this moment that I really hate my situation and what life has become for me and my family.  I'm missing out on so much at home. I miss seeing them wake on the morning. I miss hearing them say goodnight to me. I miss the sounds they make when they sleep.  I just miss them. It's really quite amazing that Dan has stuck w me this long. How long will he stick with me is a mystery. I can't be upset if he decides to go. This isn't what he signed up for when we married.  Our life has been put hold since 2012 when my dad was diagnosed with cancer. I've been the one caring for my parents.  And I HATE all my brothers for not helping. I have so much resentment that I don't want anything to do with them when mom dies.  

Sunday:  well Ralph is in town and yet I'm still here at moms for the majority of the day. It appears that I'm still needed even for the basic things. It really makes me question whether I will ever maintain a bond with my brothers after moms dies.  Luckily I have Hannah and Sophie with me to spend the day.   Later today I'll take Hannah to the Asian market so she buy whatever she wants.  Then tomorrow I won't need to come here hopefully.  

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This week was a pretty week. We started Monday off with lab work and urine culture. All seemed the result of the day and into the next.  Wednesday I noticed she was a little off. She didn't each much breakfast and seemed off.  Thursday morning we got a call from the nurse saying mom had a UTI.  They prescribed Macrobid and it's taken a toll on her.  She did PT on Thursday and was totally off after that.  She couldn't really walk and ended up staying in bed.  Later in the afternoon she was so weak she couldn't get herself up on the bed and ended up slipping down to the floor.  Thankfully she didn't hurt herself.  Saturday morning she seemed a lil weak still. She was able to get up and eat dinner in the living room.  

I hope she will be more back to herself tomorrow. 

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The kids started 6th and 4thr grade this week on Wednesday.  They were both excited and sad after same time. Tyler got the same teacher as last year which sucks. At least he knows what to expect from her.  Hannah got a new teacher that seems to be fun.  

I'm hoping for a successful school year for both of them.  It's the first year back with full days. Hopefully they will be able to get vaccinated by the end of the year.  

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This was the last full week of summer for the kids.  They start 4th and 6th grade on Wednesday the 18th.  For our last hoorah of the summer I took them to the San Diego Air and Space Museum.   13 years ago, Dan and I had our wedding reception in the rotunda of the museum.  This was one of the last affordable venues that could fit the 300+ wedding guests that celebrated our love that day. 

The kids both rode the simulator rides and did well until the very last simulation.  They both got motion sickness so the day turned short.  We got McDonald's and Handel's ice cream treats for lunch. 

They both enjoyed the summer with the many adventures we took.  I think we made the best of the summer considering our circumstances. 

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This week was a fun week for us.  I took the kids to Birch Aquarium on Thursday and Barnes and Nobles.  I think they had the most fun at the bookstore, ha.  

On Friday we went back to Moonlight Beach. This is our favorite beach so far.  It's pretty laid back and we love it.  To round out the trip we ate at Mr. Motos which was super close to the beach.  It worked out perfectly. 

On Saturday we went to Surfrider Pizza in downtown La Mesa.  Another of Tyler's favorite places.  Dan also had the birds and bees talk with them.  Thulis will be the first of many talks with them.