Sunday was my dad's 87th birthday. It was too cold to bring mom to the cemetery to spend time with him. Sadly, I don't think she realized that it was his birthday. She has lost all sense of time. She doesn't know what day of the week is or whether night time is daytime or vice versa. I know she is depressed. Frankly, i don't know how to help someone who doesn't want to be helped. It's exhausting trying to figure it out. So, I stopped trying to figure it out and now I'm just making sure she has food to eat and medicine available to her if she wants to take it. Her self care is almost non existent. She doesn't shower not brush her teeth let alone brush her hair if I'm not forcing her to do it.
I sure miss my dad. I also miss my mom. She's in that body somewhere and I wish I could figure out how get her to live again.