44 of 52 of 2021

Today is mom's 82nd birthday. She didn't remember it's her birthday let alone how old she is.  She was a little confused on why everyone came to the house for lunch. It seems she had a good time though and that's what counts. 

43 of 52 of 2021

Today, Dan and I went on a date!  We went to Thorne Brewery in Barrio Logan. The kids had a day with their Aunt Rhonda for their annual fall get together.   We had a day of no kids and what better way to spend it than at a brewery.  We tried out Las Cuatro Milpas, a well know taco shop in Barrio Logan that always has a line out the door. The food was disappointing.  With all the hype I thought it would be spectacular but sadly it wasn't.   After lunch we sampled Thorne's stouts and we were not very impressed with them either. Our favorite still remains the golden stout. 

42 of 52 of 2021

This week was a tough and busy one. We started Monday off with an appointment to the dermatologist for moms keloid.   Instead of steroid injections we opted for a highly potent ointment that will take weeks/months to shrink the keloid. We ended that journey with flu shots. 

The rest of the week was busy with work and more work.  Today is my first day home for the next 2 weeks. What better way to start it off than with a visit w dad.  

41 of 52 of 2021

Last week Jim came down to stay with mom Friday and Saturday so i can spend time with the family.  Last Saturday we went to eat at Long Island Mike's.  We've been trying to maximize the little time we have together these days. 

This week Jim came down again to spend the night with mom on Fridag and Saturday.  Unfortunately it was not planned.  Paul decided to plan a camping trip and casually tell me 2 days before he was set to leave. He asked if I could cover Friday and Saturday night with mom. Of course I lost my shit over this and asked him to reschedule and of course the answer was no.  So I asked Jim to come down because this was 3 weeks straight of me staying with mom 18 hours a day.  

What my brothers don't realize is me caring for mom for 18 hours is taking a toll on my family.  I have been in this situation since April 2021.  The 5 hours I have at home mean so much to us and to ask me to give that up is huge. I will never give it up unless mom is in the hospital.  I can't give it up. My family and I need these 5 hours a day to connect.  These 5 hours are our normal. And quite frankly the new normal sucks.

So of course, me not wanting to give up my 5 hours a day for Friday and Saturday I called Jim.  Thankfully him and Ting were able to make this work for him to come down.  This was a bonus for me. 2 night at home. My family was excited that they have me for 36 hours.  It's time well-spent with them. 

Next weekend Ralph will be here for 2 weeks so I'll be home more than 5 hours a day while he's here and I can't wait.  

Oh and today I got to watch Hannah practice riding her bike.  She did awesome!  Now time to fix the other bike so I can go out with her.

40 of 52 of 2021

Monday was national sons day. Since I honored Hannah for national daughters day it's only fair I honor my little man. 

Tyler is the gift that changed me to be a mom and have a family.  He is one of the best things that happened to me. He's full of life and and is his own character. He was diagnosed with autism when he was about 2 years old and has exceeded our and everyone's expectations. 

He has a big heart and aims to make everyone around him happy. He tells things as they are with no reserve. He's strong willed and will work hard to complete what he sets his mind to.  He researches almost about everything at length to educate himself about whatever it is.  He's one of the awesomeness kids I know and love him to death. I can't wait to see what his future holds for him.